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Dealing With Possessiveness And Finding A Happy Relationship

Possessiveness In LoveBeing in a relationship makes you happy and excited but it is good to be aware that you may face some problems, as well. Relationships are really complicated as usually two people are involved with different upbringings, different personalities, different views on life etc. It can broaden your mind and you may embrace a new way of looking at the world. On the other hand, it can frustrate you, torture you and bring out the worst in you.

One of the most common problems couples face, is possessiveness. There is a fine line and huge gap at the same time, between love and possessiveness. When you fall in love and are in a relationship, of course you feel so close to your partner. However, the very important thing you need to understand is your partner is an individual person and not your possession. Most of all the couples in happy relationships understand it and act on it. Easy to say and hard to do you might say. Let’s take a look at how to deal with your possessive feelings and find a happy relationship.

Often possessive people suffer from insecurity, jealousy, anxiety and other negative feelings. In short, they feel insecure and vulnerable. It can be rooted in negative childhood experiences or disastrous experiences from past relationships combined with their personality.

If you are in relationship and find yourself feeling jealous and possessive about your partner, try to look at your behavior objectively. Are you constantly checking your partner’s mobile phone, social network pages, even bank account? These are very dangerous signs which indicate you are over possessive.

It is hard to get over these negative feelings, however if you want to establish a happy relationship, you need to find a way to deal with them. The first step is appreciating your own self-worth. Do something you like and enjoy, sports, art activities and so on without your partner. Enjoy and praise yourself for the effort. Eventually your confidence will gradually grow, and if you establish your own world apart from your partner, naturally your focus will shift from everything about your partner to something else like your hobby or your friend.

When you are desperate for reassurance of your partner’s love, you can just ask for a cuddle and a word of love. When your partner says “I love you” and gives you a hug, enjoy it, appreciate it, feel content and move on and don’t be too clingy.

Tips For Introducing Your Lover To Your Family

Introducing Your Boyfriend

This can be one of the most challenging parts of being in a relationship and something people will often delay until they can't possibly get away with things any longer. The idea of introducing your new love to family and when, can be a daunting prospect. You may not like it because you can't control all of the variables at play especially with so many people involved. Will your partner like the family? Will they use it as a means to judge you? Will your family like your partner? Could someone have an off day and ruin everything? All of these questions can sift through your mind until you decide to leave it for another day. Let's take a glance at a few tips you can use to make sure this meeting goes successfully.

Have Conversation Starters In Place

What is the worst thing when sitting between people who are meeting for the first time? Those awkward pauses in the conversation where no one feels like they can make a comment. This is what you want to avoid.

Instead of going down this path, why not take a look at having a few conversation starters in place. After all, you are the only person who is aware of what both parties like to talk about and where they could find common ground.

Forget about conversing on such topics as religion and other things that could cause a lot of people to get offended, which is the last thing you want.

Plan An Outing That Everyone Can Be Involved In

Perhaps to take the awkwardness out of the situation, plan a picnic or a day out where everyone feels relaxed. Then that feeling of being under observation in someone’s house doesn’t occur. You want everyone to feel relaxed and open. This will lead to more natural conversation and everyone can feel at ease while getting to know one another.

First impressions do last and you are right to worry about how things are going to go, but this does not mean you never let it happen or make things even more awkward. The more you delay it, the more you are going to create tension. It is smarter to make things happen faster and focus on the tips listed here.